+A Story of Growth: Sean and Angela’s Premarital Journey

Disclaimer: The following fictional story is meant to illustrate common themes and effective approaches in counseling. While inspired by real therapeutic practices, any resemblance to actual persons is purely coincidental.

Sean (42) and Angela (38) were six months away from their wedding when they decided to attend premarital counseling. Sean, an Army veteran who had been married before, suggested it after benefiting greatly from individual counseling during his divorce. His first marriage ended after he discovered his wife had been unfaithful during his two active-duty tours. Counseling helped him process complex emotions—anger, sadness, shame, and confusion—and develop strategies for healing and self-awareness. Sean chose to remain single for two years post-divorce to focus on personal growth before meeting Angela.

Angela, who had never been in a serious relationship, had recently moved to Golden for a new job at a start-up after a decade of working abroad for an international corporation. She was independent, adventurous, and eager to integrate into her new community. Mountain biking became a hobby she picked up to connect with her colleagues, which ultimately led her to Sean.

The two met serendipitously on a trail when Angela’s bike tire went flat. Sean stopped to help, sparking a conversation that quickly evolved into a friendship and later a romantic relationship. Intentional about building a strong foundation, Sean and Angela openly discussed their values and goals early on. They agreed that premarital counseling would be a proactive way to strengthen their bond and prepare for marriage.

Before starting sessions, they completed a relationship health inventory that highlighted areas for growth. Their goals included helping Angela become more assertive in expressing her needs and teaching Sean how to identify and process his emotions more openly with her. Both were high achievers in their careers and wanted the same success in their relationship.

Through counseling sessions that incorporated Relational Life Therapy, Nonviolent Communication, and nature-based mindfulness techniques, they learned to embrace imperfection in themselves and each other. Over three months, they attended 90-minute sessions every two to three weeks, later transitioning to monthly check-ins leading up to their wedding. Post-wedding follow-ups confirmed they felt confident in their ability to navigate challenges together and were committed to seeking support whenever needed.

Premarital counseling isn’t just preparation—it’s an opportunity to deepen your connection and equip your relationship with tools for long-term success. If you’re planning your wedding or life commitment ceremony, consider reaching out to for guidance in aligning your goals, enhancing communication, and building confidence as you step into this exciting new chapter together!

Please contact Cambium Counseling.